Thursday, 25 February 2016

A Letter to the Old Generation (Uganda Old Guard)



Human beings are an evolving creature. We always have hope for the future; a future shinning bright with all potential of possibility. In the beginning of a certain struggle it was nothing more than a scandal to stand up to the existing administration. But the struggle of our forefathers changed things and presented the rest of us, both born and unborn with a future. In their struggle through a warped political system called colonialism, they found the possibility of understanding each other and belief in a brother or sister that shares no blood tie to you, regardless of tribe.
Our ancestors embraced hope for the future the moment that they fought for independence. They saw a Uganda shinning with great potential ruled by the children of their children and not by one of them. No matter how deep the despair is, hope always rises from it. You are light and there will be a time when that light shines bright over all of us.
You see as children of this great country we were all blessed the moment we came into this world. The trouble is that fathers never say enough to their sons. Children are forced to fill in the blank spaces all on their own. But that is what makes growing up beautiful. As children we should make our own mistakes. We should take the country forward as best as we can, falling down and rising up along the way.
One man cannot sit on the throne and claim to be the greatest mind with the vision forward. Nay, I should not only blame the one king seated on the throne, I should say all the old and once young men and women of Uganda should let the children take over. Just like their fathers fought to place them in positions to take the country forward, they too have fought long and hard. The time has come to let the children of the forefathers’ children take the country forward into the new age.
It has taken centuries for mankind with constant struggles and successes for humans to say that they have evolved. The battle for independence started with a simple desire for a brighter future. A future where Ugandans had power to take the land known as the Pearl of Africa into new possibilities; a thing some people would call a god all on its own.
But this power created some problems. This power led to individuals using it as a bargaining chip to stay in power. Instead of seeing the potential in each and every one Ugandan, some saw the potential in themselves and unearthed a hunger that sits deep inside of us. This hunger led to the world becoming a smaller place where power was centred in one person with the possibility of the future envisioned by the forefathers dead.
The roles of master and servants changed. Leaders meant to use the power to bring the possibility on all Ugandans out used it to stay in power. In the end we had the likes of Milton Obote, Idi Amin and countless others who might not be in the history books who took on that power and hungered for more. It is something that I would like to call the Curse of Our Forefathers.
Steady Progress.
That is what they have touted it as. But move around this country. What is Steady Progress? In the eyes of many this is just the slow and steady decline back to the Stone Age. Yes, schools are built. Yes, roads exist. Yes, there has been security and development. But in reality these milestones are being placed on a pedestal.
They talk like they are not affected. They talk as if all Ugandans are not their people. They need to see the future for all Ugandans. They should see the light of warm desire of all Ugandans to forget the petty feuds brought about by the divisions of political ideology. The problem with this light always glowing and fading comes from the fact that as Ugandans we always sweep the possibility of our future under the rug. The few times we pull off the rug, someone with that hunger for power uses it as a reason to start a war.
However, the power that is the presidency is not meant for one man alone. That is our reality. It is not meant for one person that seeks to rule believing that others do not understand. With the world changing and ever evolving, with children being born each and every day, time comes and goes. But as it passes so does it leave behind those who had their chance.
In this time when the world changes, is it so hard for those in power and cursed with the curse of our forefathers’ hunger for power, to believe that the time has come for the reins to be handed over to the children?
The time has come for the older people to understand that as their children grow, they try with all their might. Children are not inhibited by experience. Children trust the possibility of growing up. The way their feel is not wrong. They try with all their might and have the chance to get out of the accursed hunger that dogs our fathers.
If you are reading this open your eyes and usher in the new age of our country with goodwill in your hearts. Though we have our different faiths, there is another thing we can all believe in called possibility. We need to reclaim the world that our forefathers fought for, the world we desire from the moment we understand. That is my only desire as a young man growing up in this nation, but mine is just one desire in billions of desires on this planet.
The world progresses with one tiny bit every second because a few fathers trust their dreams to someone they know, someone who is not a stranger…their children. They are that lucky. Hold on to your dreams, don’t give up and don’t become close minded. That is how dreams live on beyond fathers, and that is something that Ugandans have forgotten. The chance will come and we should not hesitate.
Do not walk the same path as our fathers that have forgotten the true ideals that their fathers entrusted to them.
You see the future that the old fathers that passed on left one belief that they had for our future. They saw the possibility in each Ugandan; themselves, their children and even us the unborn children of their children. The reality we live in now is not the future that our forefathers dreamed for us as they bled to have self-rule.
Isn’t the future supposed to be a time that is different from the present; a Uganda that is better than the Uganda we have now? As the children of those who came before us we have inherited that particular dream for the future. But we have not just inherited that dream of the future, that faith in possibility; we have inherited a responsibility. If we accept the status quo as a fixed reality we will not achieve our responsibility.
Even so, without a clear notion of how it will turn out, as a human being, a Ugandan, a young man in this ever changing world, I want to believe in the future of our country, in Ugandans and the possibilities that Ugandans possess to take over the world and make Uganda into a place where Steady Progress means progress that envelopes all of us.
So, what is your desire from the bottom of your heart for this world?

Monday, 20 July 2015

The African Man



Dear reader,
Thank you for sparing the time to look at this particular blog. I appreciate the time and effort that you take off to read my blog, although I am not the most reliable person in releasing these blogs. Nevertheless, thank you. I will not make a promise that I will be better and more consistent with my posts, but I can promise to try;
Now off to my usual rant and rumbling. Today for a change I am going to start off with a poem, which will make sense at the end of the post;
The African Man,
Seen as powerful, calm and unrelenting.
The African Man,
Unwilling to change, devoted to his ways and honest.
The African Man,
Who is he?
Why do you stereotype him?
What reason do you have to make him out to be what he is not?
I tell you, I tell you,
The African Man,
He is good, he is kind, and he is not quick to rubbish change.
The African Man,
He hates being called what he is not…
What does this poem mean?
For one, I have been in numerous conversations with various African women (friends and colleagues). Do you know what they all have in common? Sadly, it is the deluded conclusion that ‘all men are cheats. It is in their blood and DNA.’ That is what they say. Most times they have reserved and sad expressions when they are telling me this hogwash. Yes, ladies, I called this belief of yours hogwash. In fact, it is bull shit.
Yes, I accept that you have classic examples of men with numerous wives. It is easy for you to pick out your friend’s friend’s man who was caught with two other girls. It is even easier to point to the numerous posh cars of well off, married or seriously committed men that line up outside universities, picking up young and naïve girls for some fun. All this is basing on my little old dusty country where I too have witnessed men at their worst. In Uganda, it is not hard to find a man with more than one woman, all of them bearing his seed. You just have to attend his funeral to find out how many children he really has.
To make matters worse, this African society has since time in memorial engrained it on the minds of its male population that the more women and children you have, the more manly that you are. True that held water in the days past. True in some instances, more common than rare, it holds more water for young men who are making it in this world.
But despite all of this, let me tell you. It is not all lost. Why should you ladies assume that all men are this way? Where you have examples of cheating lowlifes, I too have examples of men who would willingly accept to love the one woman that they are with. I have seen it done. Not to brag or anything, I am doing.
Ladies, there are some men out there who do not take you for granted. Yes, you might be more than us, but these men will accept to stay with you because they, simply put, love you. I am tired of this whole notion that men are cheats and are meant to cheat. In the first place that might be why you will drive your man to cheat ladies. As men, we do not get into a relationship where we are serious to cheat on you.
Cheating is a choice. It has always been. In Africa it was never looked at in that way, but that was then. Right now. Today. In this world that is full of mistrust and uncertainty, no wise man would willingly play with what he does not need when he has the best thing already at home.
This is my humble appeal to women. Yes you say men are made to cheat. Yes the world has fashioned it that way. Yes you have your bloody examples. But…and this is a very BIG BUT, not all men are like all men. There is that handful of men that would rather die than cheat on you, if you are their lady or who knows, they might be more than a handful. There are men who would willingly love you and only you without sharing themselves with others.
So stop saying ‘all men are cheats and it is in their DNA.’
We are not.
Until the next time, thank you,
I remain your dream chasing geek.

Wednesday, 10 June 2015

Jealousy



Hello world, some might say that I have taken the longest time possible to come and share my thoughts about the world with you, and for that, I do apologise with the sincerest heart that I can muster.
Anyway, I have put a lot of thought into this one…today I am talking about jealousy…and not jealousy in the one form everyone associates to it. I am talking about the broad picture that is jealousy. The one that makes you hate someone without knowing it, or even detest someone for the sole reason of his or her existence.
What is jealousy?
Should I use the dictionary…I don’t know. However, according to the dictionary, jealousy is a word that typically refers to the thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, anxiety over an anticipated loss or status of something of great personal value. In short jealousy is that feeling you get when you do not want to lose something or in ‘most cases’ someone.
Anyhow, I was in a conversation with someone about this particular feeling, and believe me, we somehow do not agree on the whole principle of jealousy. Yes, cast your stones and get out your pitchforks, but after you reach the end of this particular post. This person strongly believes that whereas jealousy is good, it does more harm than good (writing this statement reminds me of my literature examination papers in high school)
Back to the topic at hand. Yes, jealousy is bad. I mean any human being out there has experienced it. You are not a bloody robot so there is no way that you who is reading this has not experienced it. Jealousy makes you a mean person. It makes you over protective and we all know what happens to things that are over protected…in most cases they are the biggest disappointments any man, woman or child will ever see.
On a whole, I think jealousy is good. In all its dark and furious glory, jealousy helps to build that which you hold close. Let me look at it from the most obvious angle…relationships (left, right and centre), both emotional and intimate, as well as platonic ones. Think about it. You would not cultivate what you have in any form. I mean as a woman or man, you would not treat your partner as special if you did not get jealous. You would not make your friend feel like you’re the only real friend in the world if you were not jealous.
And…
The biggest thing that I can say is that it would not really lead you to greater heights if you did not get jealous. Some people make it in this world because they are jealous of some Mary, Jane, Alice, Tom, Dick or Harry. Look at Cristiano Ronaldo the world soccer star, although he will deny it. He is jealous of Messi and to be frank the reverse is true. The result of their jealousy, is some out of this world consistency from both men in the world of soccer.
Look at Apple and Samsung.
Look at Russia and USA
Look at Play Station and X Box
Look at your relationship (if you are in a committed and happy one)
Look at religions (this might get me in trouble but think about it)
All of them in some form or another are cultivated by jealousy. Jealousy is a bad thing, but if you are reading this, trust me, jealousy is one of the necessary evils of this world. Whatever you want to believe, if you are a human being, there is no denying that you have felt that pang in your soul. Whether it is towards a loved one, business partner or even just the stranger on the road, you have felt it.
So, think about it my friends, Think about being jealous and do not be discouraged by its fear. Use its fear to fire you because jealousy leads to anger and anger is one of the things I know that burns the brightest when making a man or woman achieve greatness. But my anger rant will be for another day.
Until the next time, my friends, I will always remain the dream chasing nerd…
PS:
Most people see me as evil,
Others think I am the worst,
But few understand,
I mean no harm,
I mean no trouble,
In my own way, I am here to help,
Not to make you weak,
But to make you fight for what you hold dear…
Do not look at me as bad if you want to remain sane,
Because many have turned to darkness, just by being in my presence,
For I am what we all are and what we all do not want to be…